My husband Randy is 13 yeas older than me.

Yes, when I was in kindergarten, he was a senior in high school.

Gross, right?

Taken in 2003 during our 5.5 week dating period.

Taken in 2003 during our 5.5 week dating period.

We have actually known each other our whole lives . . . well, my whole life.  We grew up in the same church and our moms are best friends.  In 1992, my family and I moved 700 miles away. During that time Randy married and had three daughters.  Over the next decade, my parents and I frequently visited friends and family back in Kansas, but I never once saw Randy during this time.  It wasn’t until the summer of 2002 I finally “re-met” him again.  He was a newly single dad and I was in college.

Our wedding in 2004.

Our wedding in 2004.

Long-story-short: we ran into each other two more times in 2003, started emailing each other, he drove over 700 miles to see me during that Thanksgiving break, and we started a long-distant relationship.  Five and a half weeks later we were engaged and married six months later in 2004.


You can imagine how my friends’ reacted when they found out I was suddenly engaged to a much older man who was divorced with three daughters. But I couldn’t pass this up—he was exactly what I was looking for in a husband. Eleven years of marriage later, we’re still going strong.

In 2006 we added another daughter to our family and in 2008, we had our first son.  Randy was finally no longer the only man in the house.

The whole family. Lindsay, Courtney, Katelyn, Randy, Jackson, Claire, & Lauren.

The whole family. Lindsay, Courtney, Katelyn, Randy, Jackson, Claire, & Lauren.

Life as a blended family can be messy and full of drama {there’s a reason the divorce rate for them is 67%}.  But I love this analogy my pastor gave me years ago: a blended family is like a cracked egg—it had to come from something broken in the past.  But that cracked egg can still make a delicious omelette.

My stepdaughters are now all adults and out on their own—one lives in Nebraska and two live in Colorado.  Randy and I are both teachers raising our two little ones here in Kansas.

In addition to teaching, Randy and I are involved in many different things.  Randy sings in a quartet called All four One {check them out on iTunes}. He’s on the church board, teaches 5th/6th grade Sunday School, and owns Promise Painting and Contracting.   I am a small group leader for teen girls, a nursery worker, I teach cake pop classes, and I own a teeny tiny cake pop business called Bondbons.  Sometimes we’re like ships passing in the night, but we make life work and keep family first.

Our family is currently on a major journey to become debt-free as soon as possible.  You can read about that here and see our current progress here.

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